One of the more interesting things about moving to Quebec has been discovering how many things I assumed were simply the way things are.
I don't mean important things. I don't mean that I arrived here believing that everyone in the world ought to eat the same food or drive on the same side of the road. Those differences are obvious enough. What has surprised me are the little things, the assumptions that sit underneath ordinary life so quietly that I never noticed I had made them.
Learning French has probably been the most obvious example. English has a way of making itself feel like a neutral language. If you speak English, you can easily fall into the habit of thinking that you are simply describing the world, whereas someone speaking another language is adding a cultural layer to it. Then you start learning another language and discover that the world doesn't actually line up quite as neatly as you thought it did.
There are things you can't say quite the same way. There are things that are obvious in one language and require explanation in another. There are ideas that seem to fit naturally into one way of speaking and awkwardly into another. Eventually you begin to suspect that the language isn't merely describing the world. It is helping you decide what sort of world you are looking at.
This is where I think we Anglophones can get ourselves into trouble.
We tend to imagine that our way of seeing things is the default.
Not necessarily the best way. Not consciously. We aren't usually walking around thinking, "My cultural assumptions are objectively correct and everyone else is an unfortunate deviation." It is much subtler than that. We simply don't experience our own assumptions as assumptions.
They feel like reality.
One of my favourite examples is the Ship of Theseus.
The basic puzzle is an old philosophical one. Suppose you have a ship. Over the years, one board needs replacing, then another, then another. Eventually every piece of the original ship has been replaced. Is it still the same ship?
Western philosophy has had an entertaining time with this question. There are variations involving what happens if someone collects all the discarded original pieces and builds another ship out of them. Which ship is the real one? What makes something identical to itself? Is identity located in the material, in continuity, in function, in history, or somewhere else?
And then I came across a story about an old Japanese temple that made me realise something rather obvious that I had somehow never thought about.
The story goes that some Western visitors were being shown a Japanese temple that was said to be more than a thousand years old. During the explanation, the guide happened to mention that the temple had burned down several times over the centuries.
The visitors were confused.
Eventually, they pointed out what seemed to them to be an obvious problem. If the temple had burned down, then it wasn't the original temple. Whatever stood in front of them might be on the same site and might serve the same purpose, but the original building was gone.
The guide apparently didn't see the problem.
It was still the temple.
I was fascinated by this because neither side is wrong.
The Western visitors were thinking about identity in terms of material continuity. If the original thing is gone and something else has been built in its place, then the original thing is no longer there.
The Japanese understanding, at least as I understand it, places much greater weight on continuity of function, tradition, place and purpose. The temple is not merely a collection of timbers and tiles. It is the temple because it has continued to be the temple.
And suddenly the Ship of Theseus doesn't look quite so much like a philosophical puzzle. It looks like a cultural question.
What makes something the same thing?
Well, apparently that depends on what you mean by "same".
This is where things get uncomfortable, because we tend to assume that when another person reaches a different conclusion from us, we must disagree about the facts. Sometimes we do. But sometimes we agree about the facts and disagree about what those facts mean.
That is where things can get confusing.
I can look at something and say, "That's obviously the same thing because it serves the same purpose."
You can look at it and say, "That's obviously not the same thing because none of the original material remains."
We may spend all day arguing about which of us is being logical when, in fact, we are both being logical. We have simply started with different definitions.
I have run into smaller versions of this since moving to Quebec. Things that seemed inefficient or unnecessarily complicated to me sometimes turned out to make perfect sense once I understood the assumptions behind them. And things that seemed perfectly obvious to me were not necessarily obvious to the people around me.
This can be surprisingly humbling.
It is also one of the reasons I think learning another language is such a useful exercise. You don't just learn new words. Eventually, if you stick with it long enough, you begin to notice that the words are attached to a different set of habits and expectations. You discover that some things you thought were universal were actually English-speaking assumptions wearing ordinary clothes.
And once you notice one assumption, you start seeing others.
How should a person show respect?
What counts as being polite?
How directly should you say what you mean?
What does it mean to be on time?
How much personal space is appropriate?
Should a disagreement be expressed openly or softened?
Is silence uncomfortable or respectful?
What makes someone seem confident? What makes someone seem arrogant?
What does a good parent do? What does a good teacher do? What does a good leader do?
We tend to have answers to all of these questions. The dangerous part is that we often don't know that they are answers. We think they are descriptions.
There is a wonderful irony here. We are quite capable of recognising that other cultures have perspectives. Japanese culture has a perspective. French culture has a perspective. Indigenous cultures have perspectives. African cultures have perspectives. Then we turn around and talk about our own perspective as though it were simply "the way things are".
Perhaps the hardest culture to recognise is your own.
This doesn't mean that every cultural practice is equally good. I don't think cultural relativism requires us to throw up our hands and say that nothing can ever be judged. Some things are simply unjust. Some things cause needless suffering. Some customs deserve to change.
But before I decide that something is wrong, it might be worth asking whether I actually understand what I am looking at.
That is a much harder discipline than it sounds.
It requires me to separate "I don't understand this" from "This is wrong." It's sad how often we confuse those two.
It also requires some humility about my own conclusions. If I grew up surrounded by people who thought a particular way, spoke a particular language, organised families in a particular way and understood history through a particular lens, then naturally those things will feel reasonable to me. That doesn't make them false. It simply means that my confidence in them isn't quite as independent as I might like to imagine.
This is one reason I find the Bahá’í emphasis on independent investigation of truth so interesting. Independent investigation isn't merely a command to think for yourself instead of believing whatever somebody tells you. It also means being willing to investigate the assumptions with which you are doing the thinking.
And that is considerably harder.
It is relatively easy to question somebody else's assumptions. We do it all the time. We call it arguing.
Questioning my own assumptions is less comfortable because I have to consider the possibility that the thing I thought was obvious may only be obvious from where I happen to be standing.
And perhaps that is one of the great gifts of encountering another culture. It doesn't necessarily teach me that the other culture is right. It teaches me that I am not the whole world.
That may sound like a rather modest discovery, but I suspect it is one of the foundations of genuine understanding. If I believe that my way of seeing things is simply the way things are, then everyone who sees differently appears confused, ignorant or unreasonable. Once I realise that my perspective is only one perspective among many, something changes. I can still disagree. I can still believe that my way is better in a particular situation. But now I have to make an argument for it rather than assuming that reality itself has already made the argument on my behalf.
And that opens the door to something much more interesting than tolerance. It can lead to learning.
So maybe the Japanese temple really is the same temple. Maybe it isn't.
The important thing, for me, is that I can now see why someone might answer either way.
And once I can do that, I have taken a small step outside my own culture without having to abandon it.
That may be what we need more of in the world: not people who claim to be unbiased, but people who recognize their cultural bias.
After all, if the earth really is one country, we're going to have to learn to recognize that different perspectives may be just as valid as our own.
